Sunday, July 23, 2017

Arkansas to Africa {Part 12 Hopping a Plane}

I have had several people ask me, "how in the world did y'all wind up in Africa"?

Most of the time that ends with me stuttering around and giving some kind of a lame answer.

Not because there isn't a really good (non-lame) answer,
but because it is hard to know where to get started.

Sooo, I thought I would begin to share the story that God wrote for us.
It is a looonng story that spans many years.
But don't worry, no chapter book today!
 I will give it to you a bit at a time!


If you want to catch up to speed, you can find:

Part 1 {here}
Part 2 {here}
Part 3 {here}
Part 4 {here}
Part 5 {here}
Part 6 {here}
Part 7 {here}
Part 8 {here}

Part 9 {here}
Part 10 {here}
Part 11 {here}

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 I left off last with our plans to go ahead and move to Malawi and wait on our girls' US Visas. We had booked our tickets to move to Malawi with the rest of our team in July 2013. 

A few weeks before our departure date, we received incredible news from the US Embassy!  Our investigation was complete! It was time to go pick up our girls! So, in a whirlwind, we canceled our Malawi tickets and booked tickets to go pick up our girls in DRCongo.  In July, we traveled to the airport and sent off the two families that were on our team. We said, "see you later" and went back home to our empty house. It was a strange feeling not going with the rest of our team, but exciting also that we were just days away from meeting our girls!

On August 4, 2013, we boarded a plan to DRCongo! It was really the most surreal feeling. Finally completing our family after  3.5 years of waiting. This was our first time to land on the continent of Africa, and it was all just full of so many emotions as we had been dreaming about this day for so long!



On August 6, after a night of no sleep because of excitement jitters, a van pulled up in front of our hotel. Out popped two little girls.... our girls. A few quick words about schedules and likes/dislikes, and then we were alone. We were now mom and dad to 2 little ones that we had been staring at for months in photos.



We spent 3 weeks in DRCongo completing paperwork and waiting...lots and lots of waiting. We weren't allowed to leave our hotel very much, so the days were long. We missed our boys terribly and were ready to get back to the States so we could complete all the next steps to start our lives in Malawi. Understandably, there was lots of trauma and hard adjustments as we got to know each other and learn to trust. Looking back, I wish I could have whispered in my ear, "it's all going to be ok, it's just going to take time." 

Three weeks later, we received our much anticipated Exit Letters and we rushed to the airport at dark to catch our flight. Five weeks later, the country quit issuing Exit Letters and held onto this suspension for over two years. We made it through the long, rough flights and landed back in Arkansas in late August 2013. All four of us were ready to be done with those flights and we were anxious to be back with the boys and start life as a family of six! I wrote more about our adoption here. 



Now that we were back on American soil, we had several things to do to get ready for our move. We had to re-adopt the girls in our State, apply for SS #"s, wait on green cards, get new birth certificates and US passports. We lived in the States (in our empty house) for six weeks while we applied and waited for these documents. Looking back, I am still amazed that God accomplished all those things in six short weeks!

In those six weeks we tried to cocoon our family in so we could bond and become a new family. We also tried to soak in as much time as we could with our families since we were going to be moving away soon. It was an interesting transition time.

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I think the next installment of AR to AF will be the last! When I started off writing this series, I never dreamed it would take me 13 installments and almost 3 years! 



Monday, June 19, 2017

Secondary School Graduation {Malawi Mondays}

It's time for a little Malawi Monday ! Today is all about Graduation Ceremonies!

I've been able to attend a few Secondary School Graduations (both government and private) and they are so much fun!

Friday, we attended the graduation of one of our Form 4 (12th grade) students from Esther's House! It's so much fun watching a kid that has grown up in the sponsorship program at EH hit this great milestone! It's a big accomplishment to finish Secondary School here in Malawi!

When we received the invitation for graduation, it listed the start time at 8AM. At almost four years of living here, I did not fall for the start time! Like many African countries, Malawi runs on it's own time schedule and we knew if we showed up at 8, we'd most likely be waiting for several hours. So, we played it safe and showed up around 10 AM. Graduation actually started at 11:30. Honestly, I love the laid back time schedule here. For a person who is perpetually late, I love not stressing about being exactly on time. It's freeing knowing that if you show up late, no one is going to be mad at you and you probably won't miss much!

So, from 10-11:30, we (myself, my 7 year old daughter, one of the EH girls, my sister, and two awesome interns) wandered around the auditorium, took photos, and danced with little kids in the back.


{Essau, the graduate}


{"L", one of our EH kiddos posing for some photos while we wait}


{cute neighbor kids dancing in the back}


{graduates waiting to start}


{guys chillin' while they wait for the program to start}


{My Asher-girl killing some time}


My favorite thing about Malawian graduation ceremonies are the dance-in entrances! 
I love the joy, the moves, the celebration!
So fun!
{If you visit my Instagram page, you can see the actual video}

Our two interns are so much fun and danced in with the graduates.
The graduates were pumped having visitors celebrating with them and ate it up!


The dance- in was followed by all kinds of student led activities. 
Boys' acapella songs, reminiscent of Boyz || Men. Lots of rap renditions, poem recitations, 
and even Acrobat Steve!

There are speeches given by the outgoing and incoming prefects.
The speeches are very free and one even complained about the teachers, to the cheers of her peers.
Many headmen are in attendance and sit in special seating on the front row.
An honored guest speaker gives a speech to the graduates. 






{Acrobat Steve}


{There were cultural dances}


Finally, the certificates are passed out! 
So proud of Essau!

Awards are given to the top student in each subject. 
Another fun thing that takes place in Malawi is when a student wins an award. 
The parents usually run, whooping with joy to hug their student and often give them gifts of money or food. 
It's sweet to see the joy/pride/celebration of the family members. 

Next, all the graduates will take their MSCE (National Exam). They will find out the results of this test in September/October. The results on this test will dictate what they can do in their future. If they pass, more opportunities will be available. Entrance into universities and different schools will depend on what kind of score they receive. 
It's a LOT of pressure!




Saturday, June 17, 2017

{thirteen} a teenager birthday post


On June 10th, our oldest entered into teenage-hood.
This has felt so big for our family!
I didn't notice all the changes that have happened this year until I looked back on last years pictures. Our kid is really growing up (sniffle)!

Past birthdays:

We wanted to make this birthday a big milestone birthday, which feels a little tricky when you are living overseas. But, we tried our best! 
I do love how our kids have grasped onto the simple parties. 
Choosing their favorite meal, simple gifts, and some friends over and they will declare it 
"the best day ever".

Z has been counting down the days until his birthday for awhile!
He picked his favorite breakfast, lunch, and dinner.

He had his friends over for a water balloon war.


His grandparents and cousins had sent gifts with a visiting team, so he had several presents to open up through out the day. 


We have two other families living here with us, two interns, and a visiting friend. 
So, we had a full house for his party!


We had been filing away some ideas for his birthday from other families we admire and from books we have read. We wanted to make this milestone birthday about THREE things: 

Privilege
Responsibility
Biblical Man-hood

Privilege in our family, where we live, means later bed times and some more movie options.  



Responsibility at 13, looks like Zander having to wash his own clothes and also owning the lawn mowing in our back yard. We want to be intentional about preparing him for adult-hood and giving him more responsibilities to learn hard work and excellence. We are hoping to continue to add to the privilege and responsibility areas each year until he is ready to fly on his own after high school graduation. 


The Biblical Man-hood piece was really fun! We contacted a couple hand-full of men that have been consistent in Zander's life. These men are guys that Zander looks up to and strive to chase after God. We asked these men to write letters to Zander for his birthday. The letters were so awesome! I teared up with each letter as they came in because they were EXACTLY what I was wanting for Zander. The notes were filled with encouragement and words of affirmation. They laid out what it looks like transitioning into man-hood, ways that Satan will try to trip him up, and even personal challenges that they faced when they were his age. David and I also added a letter to the mix! We are praying that these letters will be read over and over again as he encounters the blessings and challenges as he transitions into adult-hood. 


Uncle Titus and Aunt Ashley gifted Zander with their telescope! Such a special gift!


All the Esther's House kids came over and we enjoyed lots of cake and playing!
This years' cake request was sugar cookie cake on top and bottom with funfetti cake in the middle (Thanks Tyler ;)

We're so thankful for all who helped make his day special!

I always enjoy taking pictures of my kids on their birthdays and Zander reluctantly allowed me to snap a few pics in the back yard. 






Gosh, we love this kid so much! 

I definitely feel like we are entering a new era of parenting and a new phase of beginning that "let- go" process as we give more privileges and responsibilities. I am praying that our relationship will continue to grow and morph and will come out stronger on the other side! Friends with kids in the stage ahead of us, we are watching you and grabbing on to any advice you can give us!



Thursday, May 11, 2017

TEN {a birthday post}

In April, Esther turned the big double digit 1-0!

I don't know if it is the whole four kids thing, or the ages of my kids, or the busy-ness of life, but I feel like the birthdays are coming so quickly these days!

Past birthdays can be found here:



The day I took these photos of my kids in this pretty wild flower field, was that day that Esther became a follower of Jesus! It was such a special day! 


Esther is a kind friend, a hard worker, a diligent student and a compassionate young lady!


 I am sure I probably have said this in years past, but she is really good at laughing at herself and not taking things too seriously! I love that quality about her!


{pic taken by Nic Taylor Photography}

She is fiercely loyal and an encourager to others! 
She is such a integral member of our family!



10 year old interview:

Favorite Color: pink and purple
Favorite movie: Sing and Moana
Favorite Food: Rice and grilled cheese
Favorite drink: pineapple Fanta
Favorite Friend: all the EH girls
Favorite thing to do with mom: doing school, cooking and playing games
Favorite thing to do with dad: throwing the ball with me on the trampoline and reading a book
Favorite thing about living in Africa: that I have a lot of friends
Favorite Bible Story: Esther
Favorite subject in school: handwriting (cursive)
What you want to be when you grow up: an actor 

Sunday, April 30, 2017

ELEVEN {birthday post}


Ahhh, these birthdays just won't stop. 
And while I am so proud of my kids and the people they are coming, these birthdays are so bittersweet. 
The time is just going by so fast. 
Every time I do one of these birthday posts, I remind myself to just soak it all up.

This month, our G man turned 11!

Past birthday posts below:



Grainger is our out-going, silly, confidant guy!
He develops friendships easy with kids and adults.
Usually when we are out and about without kids, adults will always ask, "Ah, how is Grainger?" 
He is a favorite of our guards and when he goes out to talk to them at night, you can hear them laughing and chatting in Chichewa. 


This picture just sums him up! 
Goofy and loves to make people laugh. 
He is quite the joke-ster.


G loves to process his feelings verbally (which is a lot).
He loves to cook and many times I will come in late from work to find he has already made dinner!
He enjoys drawing, building Lego's and playing football (soccer).


He is either best friends or worst enemies with his siblings.
He is usually the first to apologize when he has sinned and lost self control and recognizes the convictions of the Holy Spirit. 
He has a huge heart for the under dog and for the elderly. 
We sure do love our guy!

11 year old interview:

Favorite Color: red
Favorite movie: The Hobbit and Lord of the Rings
Favorite Food: "I love all food"
Favorite drink: Sprite
Favorite Friend: Dayson (cousin)
Favorite thing to do with mom: cook
Favorite thing to do with dad: play sports
Favorite thing about living in Africa: the animals 
Favorite Bible Story: David and Goliath
Favorite subject in school: Reading
What you want to be when you grown up: a chef

Monday, March 27, 2017

SEVEN

Our baby is SEVEN!

Past birthdays:

We feel so blessed that we have spent four birthdays with Asher!


Asher brings so much joy and laughter to our family.


She has never met a stranger. 


She is compassionate, silly, and is into everything!


She entertains herself well and has a great imagination.
  

Asher is a dare devil and has no fear of trying scary or new things. 


She is a go-er and a mover and a champion racer on all fours. Asher is an Uno extraordinaire!



Favorites at Seven

Favorite Colors: blue and red
Favorite Movie: Moana
Favorite Food: Cereal 
Favorite Drink: Kool-Aid
Favorite thing to play: "with my brother"
Favorite Friend: "Esther"
Favorite thing to do with mommy: "watch a movie and eat popcorn and chocolate with her"
Favorite thing to do with daddy: "hanging out in you guys-es bed and watching a movie and eating chocolate"
What do you want to be when you grown up? "a ballerina"

Sunday, February 26, 2017

Chatbooks

I tend to be late to the party....and even more so since living overseas, but I just LOVE Chatbooks! 
I am such a sentimental person! 
I love memories with my favorite people! 

I take lots of pictures, but they never get printed and tend to just get stored on the computer. 
So, I was pretty excited to learn about Chatbooks through a friend. 
If you haven't heard of these sweet little books, watch this entertaining video to learn all about it!


I chose to have my Chatbooks linked to my Instagram account. 
I downloaded the app and within minutes, I had all of my pictured uploaded onto the app and arranged into books. 
I spent about an hour editing and re-arranging the photos. 
This is with sllooooowwww dial-up speed internet out here in rural Malawi. 
When your book has 60 pictures in it, you will automatically receive an email that your book is done. You then have 3 days to edit your book before it ships!

I had the books shipped to my mom's house since I knew we were going to travel back to the States for Christmas. I was really excited to get my hands on our memories!



The paper quality is nice and thick, the ink is vibrant. 
Some of my first pictures I used on Instagram were from an Iphone 3, so the camera wasn't that great and my photos are grainy, but it really doesn't bother me, I just love having the memories!



The size of the books are about 6" x 6" and are an affordable $8!
Perfect for little hands (not mine, obviously, but the kids)


 Each page has a date stamp and a place for captions (or no captions which I sometimes choose if I don't feel like dealing with it.)


My kids absolutely LOVE looking at the books. 
They are nice and sturdy, so I don't stress about them tearing the books up. 
I absolutely love how the girls now have books that include them in the family pictures!


Another feature of this app that is my favorite is the ability to upload pictures straight off of my phone camera. My kids are getting older and don't always want their pictures posted to Instagram (I try to always ask permission from them first). 

Being able to "add a photo" allows me to add pictures without posting the photo to Instagram. 
If you aren't a social media person, you can have ALL of your photos added to Chatbooks straight from your phone favorites. 

Do you already do Chatbooks? Do you love them also?
Would you like to try Chatbooks for yourself?
I have a fun offer for you! Follow this link to get your first Chatbook FREE!
 In full disclosure, I will also receive a $5 credit to my next book! 
Win-Win for all!


Monday, February 13, 2017

Malawi Mondays {Rainy Season}

It's been awhile since I have written a Malawi Monday! When we were stateside for our 6 week furlough over Christmas, one of my friends mentioned that she and her kids enjoyed learning about Malawi through these posts. So,  I thought I would add some more about what life is like here in Malawi, through expat eyes. 

It's February, so I thought I would write about what happens here in February....rain, lots and lots of rain. For example, yesterday it rained and within an hour, filled up my 60 liter trash barrel.



In America, we call our rainy season "Spring". Trees and flowers begin to blossom, we start shedding our winter wears, and in the evenings, lawn mower engines are humming in every suburban neighborhood. But, in the US (or at least in the South) we typically receive rain all throughout the year.

In Malawi, rainy season is pretty much the only time of year that we receive any type of precipitation (at least in our area). The rains start in November/December and usually finish up around March/April.

A good rainy season is imperative for most Malawians. Malawi is primarily  an agriculture community. When the rains are "officially here" you will find the majority of Malawians out in their gardens planting seed. You may see some people plant ground nuts (peanuts), green beans, tomatoes, potatoes, etc. But everyone is planting maize (corn). Maize is the primary ingredient to make Nsima. Nsima is the staple food of Malawi. It is typically eaten with every meal. You can read more about Nsima  here. Too much rain or too little rain has life impacting consequences on the people here.

This is our fourth season to be living in Malawi during the rainy season. The first rainy season we were here, it rained off and on. Nothing to extreme from what we were used to living in Arkansas.

The second year, we saw MAJOR rains. As in, rained so hard that the rushing waters took down our 10 foot tall brick wall that had just been constructed in the back of our campus. It rained so hard that many houses and gardens were washed away. A man from a village a mile from our home drowned trying to walk home. The flooding lasted for two weeks and then the rains went away. People tried to replant their gardens, but the rains never returned. The harvests in our area were very small and people went hungry that year. You can read more about how people were effected here.

The third season we were in Malawi, we had a mild rainy season. It would rain for a day and then not rain for two weeks. About the time everyone was chewing their nails that their gardens were going to dry up, another rain would come. Our area had a decent crop, although many parts of Malawi experienced major flooding and then droughts. You can read more here.

This year, we are experiencing rain every day. This has been the pattern since November. The gardens are looking good. The water does not seem to have caused too much damage in our area, although we have heard of flooding in other parts of Malawi.

I had never lived in a country before where the amount of rain received has such life impacting consequences.  Too much rains equals the loss of home and garden. Too little rain also means the loss of garden, which is the primary way that people feed themselves for the year. Most Malawians do not have the money to go buy maize if their garden fails. When droughts and flooding happens, the price of maize sky rockets because it becomes a hot commodity.

The first year that we moved here, I was telling one of our staff members about how much I loved rainy season. I loved the sound of rain on the tin roof of our house. I loved the cool down of weather and I especially was in awe over the beautiful sunsets. I loved how everything turns green, the dust disappears and the country is lush and beautiful.

She explained that my experience was somewhat different than our neighbors living around us in the village. Rain doesn't sound pretty on the rooftop when it is leaking through your thatch roof at night when you are sleeping. Rain doesn't seem peaceful when it is rushing through the floor of your hut. A typical Malawian home is made of mud bricks and uses mud instead of concrete to lay the walls. Lots of water = the potential for your house to fall apart each rainy season. I enjoyed rainy season because the amount of rain doesn't effect how much or little I will eat this year.




My perspective was totally different than my neighbors. Which I guess is how this whole ex-pat thing works? We come from different cultures, backgrounds, experiences. We view things through different lenses. Part of the hard and the beauty of living in another country is learning to see the perspective of  those you have come to live life with.

Saturday, February 11, 2017

Arkansas to Africa {Part 11 Delays}

Welp, I did not mean to neglect my little blog, but somehow many months have passed by and here she lays, all dusty. I am excited to get back into updating this little space more often and to finally sitting down and finishing the AR to AF series. I am finding that my memory is getting fuzzy on the details and I want to wrap this up before I completely forget it!

I have had several people ask me, "how in the world did y'all wind up in Africa"?

Most of the time that ends with me stuttering around and giving some kind of a lame answer.

Not because there isn't a really good (non-lame) answer,
but because it is hard to know where to get started.

Sooo, I thought I would begin to share the story that God wrote for us.
It is a looonng story that spans many years.
But don't worry, no chapter book today!
 I will give it to you a bit at a time!


If you want to catch up to speed, you can find:

Part 1 {here}
Part 2 {here}
Part 3 {here}
Part 4 {here}
Part 5 {here}
Part 6 {here}
Part 7 {here}
Part 8 {here}

Part 9 {here}
Part 10 {here}

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After leaving off 18 months ago {i will complete this, i will complete this}, we thought we would get approval to travel to bring our daughters home in February 2013 and move to Malawi in May 2013. We received news that changed our timeline and left us unsure of how it all was going to go down.

The United States Embassy in our girl's birth country issued a change in policy. Instead of a two week investigation before approval of visas, they were going to begin a mandatory 6 month investigation. On one hand, we were all for more checks and balances to make sure our adoption was ethical, but on the other hand, the delay felt like a punch in the gut as our girls were waiting in a transition house for us. The extra six month wait felt like an eternity. We also weren't sure that six months wouldn't actually turn into a year or more. Our girls were from a village that was a six hour flight from where the US Embassy was located. The USE had no idea of when they would actually make it to their area to perform their investigation. 

While we waited, we started our fundraising to move to Malawi. We took advantage of our girls not being home and spent four months meeting (once, twice, sometimes three meeting a day) with friends, family, and churches to find ministry partners. God performed miracles and led people to come on board with us and completely fund all of our needs. It was really a big faith building and humbling time.

Meanwhile, it looked like our girls' investigation was not going to happen anytime soon. We decided to go ahead and move to Malawi and live there until we gained permission to come and get our daughters. We sold our house and the majority of our belongings. What we didn't sell, we loaded onto a 12' x 12' space and shipped our things to Malawi. We bought tickets to move in July 2013. 

A few weeks before we moved, we received a special surprise that caused us to cancel our flights to Malawi.......




Stay tuned! I promise I will update before 18 months passes by again. 




 
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