Showing posts with label mom musings. Show all posts
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Sunday, July 23, 2017

Arkansas to Africa {Part 12 Hopping a Plane}

I have had several people ask me, "how in the world did y'all wind up in Africa"?

Most of the time that ends with me stuttering around and giving some kind of a lame answer.

Not because there isn't a really good (non-lame) answer,
but because it is hard to know where to get started.

Sooo, I thought I would begin to share the story that God wrote for us.
It is a looonng story that spans many years.
But don't worry, no chapter book today!
 I will give it to you a bit at a time!


If you want to catch up to speed, you can find:

Part 1 {here}
Part 2 {here}
Part 3 {here}
Part 4 {here}
Part 5 {here}
Part 6 {here}
Part 7 {here}
Part 8 {here}

Part 9 {here}
Part 10 {here}
Part 11 {here}

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 I left off last with our plans to go ahead and move to Malawi and wait on our girls' US Visas. We had booked our tickets to move to Malawi with the rest of our team in July 2013. 

A few weeks before our departure date, we received incredible news from the US Embassy!  Our investigation was complete! It was time to go pick up our girls! So, in a whirlwind, we canceled our Malawi tickets and booked tickets to go pick up our girls in DRCongo.  In July, we traveled to the airport and sent off the two families that were on our team. We said, "see you later" and went back home to our empty house. It was a strange feeling not going with the rest of our team, but exciting also that we were just days away from meeting our girls!

On August 4, 2013, we boarded a plan to DRCongo! It was really the most surreal feeling. Finally completing our family after  3.5 years of waiting. This was our first time to land on the continent of Africa, and it was all just full of so many emotions as we had been dreaming about this day for so long!



On August 6, after a night of no sleep because of excitement jitters, a van pulled up in front of our hotel. Out popped two little girls.... our girls. A few quick words about schedules and likes/dislikes, and then we were alone. We were now mom and dad to 2 little ones that we had been staring at for months in photos.



We spent 3 weeks in DRCongo completing paperwork and waiting...lots and lots of waiting. We weren't allowed to leave our hotel very much, so the days were long. We missed our boys terribly and were ready to get back to the States so we could complete all the next steps to start our lives in Malawi. Understandably, there was lots of trauma and hard adjustments as we got to know each other and learn to trust. Looking back, I wish I could have whispered in my ear, "it's all going to be ok, it's just going to take time." 

Three weeks later, we received our much anticipated Exit Letters and we rushed to the airport at dark to catch our flight. Five weeks later, the country quit issuing Exit Letters and held onto this suspension for over two years. We made it through the long, rough flights and landed back in Arkansas in late August 2013. All four of us were ready to be done with those flights and we were anxious to be back with the boys and start life as a family of six! I wrote more about our adoption here. 



Now that we were back on American soil, we had several things to do to get ready for our move. We had to re-adopt the girls in our State, apply for SS #"s, wait on green cards, get new birth certificates and US passports. We lived in the States (in our empty house) for six weeks while we applied and waited for these documents. Looking back, I am still amazed that God accomplished all those things in six short weeks!

In those six weeks we tried to cocoon our family in so we could bond and become a new family. We also tried to soak in as much time as we could with our families since we were going to be moving away soon. It was an interesting transition time.

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I think the next installment of AR to AF will be the last! When I started off writing this series, I never dreamed it would take me 13 installments and almost 3 years! 



Saturday, June 17, 2017

{thirteen} a teenager birthday post


On June 10th, our oldest entered into teenage-hood.
This has felt so big for our family!
I didn't notice all the changes that have happened this year until I looked back on last years pictures. Our kid is really growing up (sniffle)!

Past birthdays:

We wanted to make this birthday a big milestone birthday, which feels a little tricky when you are living overseas. But, we tried our best! 
I do love how our kids have grasped onto the simple parties. 
Choosing their favorite meal, simple gifts, and some friends over and they will declare it 
"the best day ever".

Z has been counting down the days until his birthday for awhile!
He picked his favorite breakfast, lunch, and dinner.

He had his friends over for a water balloon war.


His grandparents and cousins had sent gifts with a visiting team, so he had several presents to open up through out the day. 


We have two other families living here with us, two interns, and a visiting friend. 
So, we had a full house for his party!


We had been filing away some ideas for his birthday from other families we admire and from books we have read. We wanted to make this milestone birthday about THREE things: 

Privilege
Responsibility
Biblical Man-hood

Privilege in our family, where we live, means later bed times and some more movie options.  



Responsibility at 13, looks like Zander having to wash his own clothes and also owning the lawn mowing in our back yard. We want to be intentional about preparing him for adult-hood and giving him more responsibilities to learn hard work and excellence. We are hoping to continue to add to the privilege and responsibility areas each year until he is ready to fly on his own after high school graduation. 


The Biblical Man-hood piece was really fun! We contacted a couple hand-full of men that have been consistent in Zander's life. These men are guys that Zander looks up to and strive to chase after God. We asked these men to write letters to Zander for his birthday. The letters were so awesome! I teared up with each letter as they came in because they were EXACTLY what I was wanting for Zander. The notes were filled with encouragement and words of affirmation. They laid out what it looks like transitioning into man-hood, ways that Satan will try to trip him up, and even personal challenges that they faced when they were his age. David and I also added a letter to the mix! We are praying that these letters will be read over and over again as he encounters the blessings and challenges as he transitions into adult-hood. 


Uncle Titus and Aunt Ashley gifted Zander with their telescope! Such a special gift!


All the Esther's House kids came over and we enjoyed lots of cake and playing!
This years' cake request was sugar cookie cake on top and bottom with funfetti cake in the middle (Thanks Tyler ;)

We're so thankful for all who helped make his day special!

I always enjoy taking pictures of my kids on their birthdays and Zander reluctantly allowed me to snap a few pics in the back yard. 






Gosh, we love this kid so much! 

I definitely feel like we are entering a new era of parenting and a new phase of beginning that "let- go" process as we give more privileges and responsibilities. I am praying that our relationship will continue to grow and morph and will come out stronger on the other side! Friends with kids in the stage ahead of us, we are watching you and grabbing on to any advice you can give us!



Sunday, April 30, 2017

ELEVEN {birthday post}


Ahhh, these birthdays just won't stop. 
And while I am so proud of my kids and the people they are coming, these birthdays are so bittersweet. 
The time is just going by so fast. 
Every time I do one of these birthday posts, I remind myself to just soak it all up.

This month, our G man turned 11!

Past birthday posts below:



Grainger is our out-going, silly, confidant guy!
He develops friendships easy with kids and adults.
Usually when we are out and about without kids, adults will always ask, "Ah, how is Grainger?" 
He is a favorite of our guards and when he goes out to talk to them at night, you can hear them laughing and chatting in Chichewa. 


This picture just sums him up! 
Goofy and loves to make people laugh. 
He is quite the joke-ster.


G loves to process his feelings verbally (which is a lot).
He loves to cook and many times I will come in late from work to find he has already made dinner!
He enjoys drawing, building Lego's and playing football (soccer).


He is either best friends or worst enemies with his siblings.
He is usually the first to apologize when he has sinned and lost self control and recognizes the convictions of the Holy Spirit. 
He has a huge heart for the under dog and for the elderly. 
We sure do love our guy!

11 year old interview:

Favorite Color: red
Favorite movie: The Hobbit and Lord of the Rings
Favorite Food: "I love all food"
Favorite drink: Sprite
Favorite Friend: Dayson (cousin)
Favorite thing to do with mom: cook
Favorite thing to do with dad: play sports
Favorite thing about living in Africa: the animals 
Favorite Bible Story: David and Goliath
Favorite subject in school: Reading
What you want to be when you grown up: a chef

Sunday, February 26, 2017

Chatbooks

I tend to be late to the party....and even more so since living overseas, but I just LOVE Chatbooks! 
I am such a sentimental person! 
I love memories with my favorite people! 

I take lots of pictures, but they never get printed and tend to just get stored on the computer. 
So, I was pretty excited to learn about Chatbooks through a friend. 
If you haven't heard of these sweet little books, watch this entertaining video to learn all about it!


I chose to have my Chatbooks linked to my Instagram account. 
I downloaded the app and within minutes, I had all of my pictured uploaded onto the app and arranged into books. 
I spent about an hour editing and re-arranging the photos. 
This is with sllooooowwww dial-up speed internet out here in rural Malawi. 
When your book has 60 pictures in it, you will automatically receive an email that your book is done. You then have 3 days to edit your book before it ships!

I had the books shipped to my mom's house since I knew we were going to travel back to the States for Christmas. I was really excited to get my hands on our memories!



The paper quality is nice and thick, the ink is vibrant. 
Some of my first pictures I used on Instagram were from an Iphone 3, so the camera wasn't that great and my photos are grainy, but it really doesn't bother me, I just love having the memories!



The size of the books are about 6" x 6" and are an affordable $8!
Perfect for little hands (not mine, obviously, but the kids)


 Each page has a date stamp and a place for captions (or no captions which I sometimes choose if I don't feel like dealing with it.)


My kids absolutely LOVE looking at the books. 
They are nice and sturdy, so I don't stress about them tearing the books up. 
I absolutely love how the girls now have books that include them in the family pictures!


Another feature of this app that is my favorite is the ability to upload pictures straight off of my phone camera. My kids are getting older and don't always want their pictures posted to Instagram (I try to always ask permission from them first). 

Being able to "add a photo" allows me to add pictures without posting the photo to Instagram. 
If you aren't a social media person, you can have ALL of your photos added to Chatbooks straight from your phone favorites. 

Do you already do Chatbooks? Do you love them also?
Would you like to try Chatbooks for yourself?
I have a fun offer for you! Follow this link to get your first Chatbook FREE!
 In full disclosure, I will also receive a $5 credit to my next book! 
Win-Win for all!


Thursday, June 16, 2016

TWELVE

Last week our oldest turned 12. 

It is our last year before we have to start throwing "teen" in on his birthdays. 

I am sure if I go back and read all of his birthday posts, I will see that every year I have a bit of a hard time with my first- born continuing to grow older!
It's such bitter sweet feelings all rolled up together.
I love seeing glimpses of the man he is becoming but also clearly see how fast this whole mom-gig is going by. 

And this mom-gig is my favorite thing.

Past Birthdays:


Things I want to remember about Z at 12....
Z is our one quiet child. 
He is greatly outnumbered by all the "louds" in our house.


We are learning his love language is quality time.
He loved that on his birthday, he got to pick all 3 meals and have his whole family sit together and eat and watch him open a gift. 


He and his dad got to get away for the weekend on his birthday and spent the night in a hotel.
You could just tell his quality time cup was filled when he got home. 


He continues his love for reading and most of the time if he goes missing, you can find him in the house with a book.



He is still our day dreamer and I love the ideas he comes up with!
He is learning to play the guitar and likes to practice and watch videos.


He is growing into his role of being the big brother to 3.
He loves to play with his siblings on the trampoline or bring them into his game he invented. 
He is also totally fine being by himself. 






Favorites at 12:

Favorite Color: black and neon green
Favorite movie: Battle of 5 Armies
Favorite Food: fried chicken
Favorite drink: Sprite
Favorite thing to play: sword fighting
Favorite Friend: Corbin
Favorite thing to do with mom: watch movies
Favorite thing to do with dad: Legos, drawing, and sports stuff
Favorite thing about living in Africa: it's really pretty
Favorite Bible Story: Joshua
Favorite subject in school: History
What you want to be when you grow up: a blacksmith for making weapons for movies

Monday, May 30, 2016

E turns NINE {Birthday}


G (10) and E's (9) birthdays just fall 3 days apart so there are lots of birthday celebrations going on in that second week of April.

On Esther's Birthday, we happened to be at the lake with a team.
The kids had a great time getting to do Vacation Bible School on the beach and swim!
The last night before the team left, the staff at the hotel brought out Esther a beautiful, huge birthday cake covered in bright pink flower petals and sang to her.
It made her year! It was so precious seeing how surprised she was to see everyone celebrating her.

This year, after taking into account the HUGE growth that E has had since she has been with us, the advice from a Dr. and a dentist, we decided that Esther would turn 9 on her birthday instead of 8. 
So we celebrated turning 8 & 9 and got a new pretty bike!


Here are her past birthday pics......



She likes playing jump rope, jumping on the trampoline, and riding her bike.


One of her most admirable qualities is that she can laugh at herself.


She has done so well this year in second grade and works hard to do her best.
She has gained a lot of ground in reading.


She is quick to forgive and is a kind friend.
She is a thoughtful and loyal companion.
We sure do love her and are thankful we get to celebrate her birthdays!


9 year old interview:

Favorite Color: pink and purple
Favorite movie: Hotel Transylvania 2
Favorite Food: grilled cheese
Favorite drink: Coca Cola
Favorite Friend: all the EH girls
Favorite thing to do with mom: spend time with her
Favorite thing to do with dad: spend time with him as well
Favorite thing about living in Africa: that I have a lot of friends
Favorite Bible Story: David and Goliath
Favorite subject in school: handwriting (cursive)
What you want to be when you grow up: a gymnast

Wednesday, May 25, 2016

A Day in the Life of My MK {missionary kid}

One of my favorite things about having a blog is having a record of what life looks like in different seasons of our lives. I have an old blog that I started when this, almost 12 year old, was just 4 years old. The days were long and I thought I would always remember what life was like back then. But, when I read old posts, I have no recollection of those days....just a few short years ago (#mombrain). So, I just love having records of life. The normal, ordinary days. I know I will cherish looking back on this season with my oldest. And, I am going to pretend like I am not always mentally calculating how he only has 6 short years left in our house {insert ugly cry}

A couple weeks ago, I kept my phone with me all day and snapped pics of what a typical Thursday looks like for my oldest missionary kid. It's fun to follow overseas families from all over the world and get a peek into their lives. Our days are pretty slow and simple, but we love it just the same.

On this particular morning, I woke up to find Z in the kitchen. He has become quite the cook, making biscuits and chocolate gravy for breakfast. 


After breakfast, he has morning chores and then is off to do Math with his tutor. I seriously wished I had outsourced Math a loooooong time ago. It has always been a subject we have butted heads in (let's be real, 7th grade Math is about as high as I can remember). A veteran missionary, mama friend suggested I find someone to help me with just this one subject. I don't know why I never thought of it before! In Malawi, we have many certified teachers looking for work as they wait years for the government to place them. So, it was win-win situation. I am so thankful for Mr. Andrew!


After 1-1.5 hours of Math, Z comes back to the house and we finish up the rest of his subjects. 
We usually finish up school around 1 o'clock.


Next up is lunch and play time. 


Some kindle reading and games while sister plays beauty shop.


In the afternoons, all 4 of my kids get to participate in skills classes. I am SO thankful for this time. I love for my kids to get to participate in an activity with other kids and a teacher. Those important life lessons of, "if you sign up for this, you have to see it through to the end".
Z is in my computer skills class this term with his friend and fellow MK "C'. 


After skills class, we play outside, eat dinner, shower, do chores, maybe watch a movie, and go to bed.

That's a typical day. 
I used to worry about the things my kids were missing out on...school, sports, extracurriculars, etc.
Now, I am just really thankful for this season. The family time, the routines, the no-stress. 
I think it's a pretty good childhood!

Sunday, April 3, 2016

{SIX} Birthday

These birthdays keep coming faster and faster it seems! 
Hard to believe our Asher girl is SIX!

Here is her 4th birthday
and her


Man, we could not love this girl more!


She just exudes LIFE and JOY!



She is our worry free girl who is fear-less!


She's the 3 year old jumping off a clip into the lake.
The 5 year old diving off the diving board with her floaties.
She's the kid that insists on going on the scary zip-line course all by herself.



She's kind and compassionate.


She loves people and has never met a stranger.


She is almost always happy and peppy!


She is also energetic...and LOUD.


She's the last one to fall asleep each night and the first one to wake up each morning.


She loves to laugh and thinks her jokes are the funniest.

We love you Asher! We hope you never change! You make life more fun for everyone!

Favorites at SIX

Favorite Colors: blue
Favorite Movie: Wild Kratts
Favorite Food: Cereal
Favorite Drink: ice water
Favorite thing to play: play on the trampoline with Esther 
Favorite Friend: Kiera and Makenzie
Favorite thing to do with mommy: "watch a movie"
Favorite thing to do with daddy: "play with him"
What do you want to be when you grown up? "a cook"

 
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