TWELVE

Last week our oldest turned 12. 

It is our last year before we have to start throwing "teen" in on his birthdays. 

I am sure if I go back and read all of his birthday posts, I will see that every year I have a bit of a hard time with my first- born continuing to grow older!

It's such bitter sweet feelings all rolled up together.

I love seeing glimpses of the man he is becoming but also clearly see how fast this whole mom-gig is going by. 

And this mom-gig is my favorite thing.

Past Birthdays:

Eleven

Ten

Things I want to remember about Z at 12....

Z is our one quiet child. 

He is greatly outnumbered by all the "louds" in our house.

We are learning his love language is quality time.

He loved that on his birthday, he got to pick all 3 meals and have his whole family sit together and eat and watch him open a gift. 

He and his dad got to get away for the weekend on his birthday and spent the night in a hotel.

You could just tell his quality time cup was filled when he got home. 

He continues his love for reading and most of the time if he goes missing, you can find him in the house with a book.

He is still our day dreamer and I love the ideas he comes up with!
He is learning to play the guitar and likes to practice and watch videos.

He is growing into his role of being the big brother to 3.

He loves to play with his siblings on the trampoline or bring them into his game he invented. 

He is also totally fine being by himself. 

Favorites at 12:

Favorite Color: black and neon green

Favorite movie: Battle of 5 Armies

Favorite Food: fried chicken

Favorite drink: Sprite

Favorite thing to play: sword fighting

Favorite Friend: Corbin

Favorite thing to do with mom: watch movies

Favorite thing to do with dad: Legos, drawing, and sports stuff

Favorite thing about living in Africa: it's really pretty

Favorite Bible Story: Joshua

Favorite subject in school: History

What you want to be when you grow up: a blacksmith for making weapons for movies

E turns NINE {Birthday}

G (10) and E's (9) birthdays just fall 3 days apart so there are lots of birthday celebrations going on in that second week of April.

On Esther's Birthday, we happened to be at the lake with a team.

The kids had a great time getting to do Vacation Bible School on the beach and swim!

The last night before the team left, the staff at the hotel brought out Esther a beautiful, huge birthday cake covered in bright pink flower petals and sang to her.

It made her year! It was so precious seeing how surprised she was to see everyone celebrating her.

This year, after taking into account the HUGE growth that E has had since she has been with us, the advice from a Dr. and a dentist, we decided that Esther would turn 9 on her birthday instead of 8. 

So we celebrated turning 8 & 9 and got a new pretty bike!

Here are her past birthday pics......

SIX

SEVEN

She likes playing jump rope, jumping on the trampoline, and riding her bike.

One of her most admirable qualities is that she can laugh at herself.

She has done so well this year in second grade and works hard to do her best.

She has gained a lot of ground in reading.

She is quick to forgive and is a kind friend.

She is a thoughtful and loyal companion.

We sure do love her and are thankful we get to celebrate her birthdays!

9 year old interview:

Favorite Color: pink and purple

Favorite movie: Hotel Transylvania 2

Favorite Food: grilled cheese

Favorite drink: Coca Cola

Favorite Friend: all the EH girls

Favorite thing to do with mom: spend time with her

Favorite thing to do with dad: spend time with him as well

Favorite thing about living in Africa: that I have a lot of friends

Favorite Bible Story: David and Goliath

Favorite subject in school: handwriting (cursive)

What you want to be when you grow up: a gymnast

G is TEN

My baby boy turned 10 in April. Double digits....how in the world?!

My friend Kristin was in town again this year and snapped pics of my kids, which is why this birthday post is actually happening! 

EIGHTH birthday

NINTH birthday

Grainger is funny, silly, and loves making friends.

His current favorite pastime is playing football with his friends. 

He is on the Jr. football team here at Esther's House and loves it!

I have to drag him in every night at dark from playing with his friends.

Of all of our kids, he has picked up speaking Chichewa the most. 

I am always surprised to hear him saying something to someone and thinking, 

"hey, I didn't know you knew that."

G has BIG feelings and we are working on how to share those BIG feelings in a positive way :)

He loves his siblings (somedays you may not be able to tell ;)  and I think we have been in a brother wrestling phase for every.single.day of the last 10 years. 

I have no hope that he will outgrow it. 

10 year old interview:

Favorite Color: red

Favorite movie: Harry Potter 4

Favorite Food: cake

Favorite drink: Coca Cola

Favorite Friend: Isaac, Precious, Nedson, and Zander

Favorite thing to do with mom: cook

Favorite thing to do with dad: just sitting down together and playing a game

Favorite thing about living in Africa: that I have 80 kids to play with

Favorite Bible Story: when Elijah outruns Ahab's chariot

Favorite subject in school: Reading

What you want to be when you grown up: a chef

A Day in the Life of My MK {missionary kid}

One of my favorite things about having a blog is having a record of what life looks like in different seasons of our lives. I have an old blog that I started when this, almost 12 year old, was just 4 years old. The days were long and I thought I would always remember what life was like back then. But, when I read old posts, I have no recollection of those days....just a few short years ago (#mombrain). So, I just love having records of life. The normal, ordinary days. I know I will cherish looking back on this season with my oldest. And, I am going to pretend like I am not always mentally calculating how he only has 6 short years left in our house {insert ugly cry}

A couple weeks ago, I kept my phone with me all day and snapped pics of what a typical Thursday looks like for my oldest missionary kid. It's fun to follow overseas families from all over the world and get a peek into their lives. Our days are pretty slow and simple, but we love it just the same.

On this particular morning, I woke up to find Z in the kitchen. He has become quite the cook, making biscuits and chocolate gravy for breakfast. 

After breakfast, he has morning chores and then is off to do Math with his tutor. I seriously wished I had outsourced Math a loooooong time ago. It has always been a subject we have butted heads in (let's be real, 7th grade Math is about as high as I can remember). A veteran missionary, mama friend suggested I find someone to help me with just this one subject. I don't know why I never thought of it before! In Malawi, we have many certified teachers looking for work as they wait years for the government to place them. So, it was win-win situation. I am so thankful for Mr. Andrew!

After 1-1.5 hours of Math, Z comes back to the house and we finish up the rest of his subjects. 

We usually finish up school around 1 o'clock.

Next up is lunch and play time. 

Some kindle reading and games while sister plays beauty shop.

In the afternoons, all 4 of my kids get to participate in skills classes. I am SO thankful for this time. I love for my kids to get to participate in an activity with other kids and a teacher. Those important life lessons of, "if you sign up for this, you have to see it through to the end".

Z is in my computer skills class this term with his friend and fellow MK "C'. 

After skills class, we play outside, eat dinner, shower, do chores, maybe watch a movie, and go to bed.

That's a typical day. 

I used to worry about the things my kids were missing out on...school, sports, extracurriculars, etc.

Now, I am just really thankful for this season. The family time, the routines, the no-stress. 

I think it's a pretty good childhood!

A Day in the Life {Journal Entry}

I have been wanting to document more of our day to day life here in Malawi. Funny, embarrassing, mundane stuff that I know I will enjoy looking back on one day. 

My past "A Day in the Life" journal entries can be found...

Here
Here
Here

&

Here

11/2013

In our first couple months, "on the field" we had our first "what!?" experience. David had taken the kids out for a bike ride. At this particular time, we were a circus show in the village (now nobody pays any attention to us). Every time we went out, everyone would chase us and point + laugh. It took a bit to get used to...especially for our kids. So on this particular day, David had 3 of our kids and was riding bikes. We had bought the boys' bikes a little big so that they could have a few years out of them and son #2 hadn't quite gotten the hang of starting off his new bike on his own. After a fall, he hadn't been able to climb back on, so he was walking with head hung down as a whole group of kids followed him and laughed. {side note: now he would totally be able to handle this situation, but at the time he was embarrassed and feeling really sad}. 

As the group of kids surrounded him, a bike taxi (njinga) was flying up on the group and totally took out one of the kids; sending her flying into the ditch with an apparent broken leg. Son #2, oblivious to the "hit and run" that happened behind him just kept walking to the house. 

The next day, a knock came to the gate. The mother of the injured child was there. She was accusing our 7 year old son of running over her daughter and breaking her leg. A crowd had gathered and they wanted us to pay for the damages done. It was definitely one of those moments we were like, "what?! 
 that is not how it went down!" After many conversations, translations, and even confessions from the bike taxi driver, our 7 year old son's name was cleared. The mom broke down in tears and said, "I am not accusing anymore, but am begging for help." In Malawi, when someone is hospitalized, a family member must go with the person to the hospital and stay with them 24/7 to care/feed for them. The mom was just desperate for transportation and food for she and her daughter for however long they were going to have to staying in the hospital. 

It was definitely one of those moments that took us  from scared, confused, angry, and  frustrated, to deep compassion. We quickly saw how an injury to a family member can deeply affect the whole family. How even "free" healthcare costs families greatly as they have to figure out a way to supply meals, take time off work (if you have a job), and come up with costly transportation. It was such a clear picture to me of how all  moms are going to do what it takes to get our kid's help. I just may never have had to be in that desperate of a situation before. 

{SIX} Birthday

These birthdays keep coming faster and faster it seems! 

Hard to believe our Asher girl is SIX!

Here is her 4th birthday

and her

5th birthday

Man, we could not love this girl more!

She just exudes LIFE and JOY!

She is our worry free girl who is fear-less!

She's the 3 year old jumping off a clip into the lake.

The 5 year old diving off the diving board with her floaties.

She's the kid that insists on going on the scary zip-line course all by herself.

She's kind and compassionate.

She loves people and has never met a stranger.

She is almost always happy and peppy!

She is also energetic...and LOUD.

She's the last one to fall asleep each night and the first one to wake up each morning.

She loves to laugh and thinks her jokes are the funniest.

We love you Asher! We hope you never change! You make life more fun for everyone!

Favorites at SIX

Favorite Colors: blue

Favorite Movie: Wild Kratts

Favorite Food: Cereal

Favorite Drink: ice water

Favorite thing to play: play on the trampoline with Esther 

Favorite Friend: Kiera and Makenzie

Favorite thing to do with mommy: "watch a movie"

Favorite thing to do with daddy: "play with him"

What do you want to be when you grown up? "a cook"

A Day in the Life {Journal Entry}

I have been wanting to document more of our day to day life here in Malawi. Funny, embarrassing, mundane stuff that I know I will enjoy looking back on one day. 
My past "A Day in the Life" journal entries can be found...

here
here
&
here

11/2013

This journal entry was one of our very first "adventures" or "cultural experiences" when moving to Malawi. We had been living here for about a month and decided to go try out the lake with our missionary team (3 families). At that time, we were serving with a sweet, young, newly wed couple and they made the brave decision to ride in our car (with our FOUR children) to the lake (about a 2 hour drive). We made the trip TO the lake and enjoyed a wonderful day swimming, snorkelling, cliff jumping and eating the local chambo (fish) and rice. We left at just the right time to head home before it got dark. The roads to the lake are pretty rough with deep potholes on the edges. Between the potholes, goats, bicycles, and walkers, you don't want to be driving on this road at dark. 

We drove down the loooong washboard dirt road and noticed that our car was starting to over heat. We pulled over to let the radiator cool down and give the other family a heads up that we were having car troubles. At this time, one of our very new-to-us daughters decided to perform one of her epic melt downs, that she used to have back then. In her defence she had only been in our family for 2.5 short months and had experienced 2 MAJOR moves. We had grown used to these and knew how to ride them out, but all the locals were very concerned about the "malawian looking child" with a bunch of Americans who clearly didn't know how to make the child stop crying. We attracted quite the crowd.

Once the fit/radiator had cooled down, we decided to get back in the car and try to make it home. A few feet down the black top road, the radiator blew. Our car was done. Next, began our long 7 hour journey back home. Yes, 7 hours to drive what should be a 2 hour trip. We found a small truck who was willing to pull us with a rope home (for a price). The only problem was that he didn't have brake lights...nor fuel. So, as we putted home in the dark, David (husband/driver) was at high alert trying to strain his eyes in case the truck pulling us was slowing down or stopping. Our brakes and power steering were pretty non-existent at this point, so it made for a stressful driving experience. Every few miles, the driver would pull over and he and his buddies would disappear into the bush looking for black market fuel. No gas stations were on this road and the ones we finally would pass were closed because......yeah, it's dark. We spent many a hour on the side of the road waiting for fuel. So thankful that the other missionary friend brought her laptop with Ducky Dynasty episodes on it to keep our kids semi-entertained. We attracted a lot of attention with every stop and adults and kids alike were all gathered around the back of our car watching Duck Dynasty with our kids.

We arrived home late that night and everyone was asleep, except tired driver. This was definitely one of our biggest life lessons of what to expect when traveling in Malawi:

Expect things not to go as expected. 
Be chill about the unexpected or you will go crazy. 
Pack extra things for your kids like food, water and entertainment in case you trip doesn't go as planned (because it never will!).
It's your choice how to deal with difficulties. You can chose joy or chose frustration. (still learning 
this one)

Single Mom Sewing Program

I am so very excited to share with you a brand spankin' new program we just started at Esther's House.

But, before I get started, I should back up. Several months ago we began praying about how we could eliminate bringing kids into Esther's House. That may seem like  strange thing to pray for, right? Why would we  not want kids coming to our care facility? Well, kids not coming in means kids are not orphaned. That means mamas and daddies are alive and able to care for their children. Families are kept together. Wouldn't it be incredible to shut our doors down in the future because there are no orphans in our villages?

So, we began to ask God for ideas of how we could help eliminate orphans in our community. We started thinking about some of the most vulnerable people in our surrounding villages. Out of this prayer was born an idea to help equip single moms to be able to provide for their children in a dignified way.

Death, divorce, multiple wives, illness, abuse and abandonment are all common reasons women end up parenting alone in Malawi. Unlike the States, there is no welfare system or child support law that can help these women. So, they are desperate to do whatever they can to send their kids to school and put food in their bellies. These are good mamas doing whatever it takes to care for their babies.

We feel if we can support the mom, train her, encourage her, equip her; her family can thrive in a healthy way! If we can empower her to be able to create her own business, her ability to provide for her kids, receive medical care and  have choices has been increased exponentially!

So, in February we started our first "pilot" program. We interviewed and enrolled 5 amazing women from all different villages surrounding our campus. Combined, they have 23 children to care for! These women have committed to come 3 days a week for 6 months and learn how to sew. They are there simply to learn a skill that they hope will help them in the future. And maybe have a little fun too......

 

 During the week, the women will also meet together to study the Bible and participate in a parenting class.

After the course has been completed, the women will receive these brand new sewing machines as a gift to start their business. For a year, we will partner with these women; purchasing items as they build their client base in their villages, offering business advice, giving them the tools they need to succeed.

 

Like most new ventures, we are learning as we go.

Our prayer is that these women will learn these skills and apply them to better their lives!

That they will feel empowered.

That they will be able to send their children all the way through secondary school.

That putting food on the table will not be a problem.

That they will know Jesus loves them and their families dearly.

Would you join us in that prayer?

A Day in the Life {a journal entry}

I have been wanting to document more of our day to day life here in Malawi. Funny, embarrassing, mundane stuff that I know I will enjoy looking back on one day. My first "A Day in the Life" is found here.

2.21.16

There have definitely been some learning experiences while living here. Experiences where cultures collide and you are left feeling totally embarrassed. One afternoon, Azlee (intern) and I were going out to do some home visits. We were wearing our medical pants and had our chintenjes in our backpacks ready to tie them around us as soon as we got to the home. Neither one of us were talented enough to ride our bikes in a skirt. Soon after we left, we saw there was a funeral in the village. A very large funeral with the whole village in attendance along the main road. Funerals here are marked with tree branches. A pile of branches alert you to the beginning of a funeral and again at the end of the funeral. I knew the markers and knew that if I was driving a car, the culturally respectful thing to do is to slow your vehicle down to a crawl between the 2 piles of branches. What I didn't know, was that if you were riding a bike, you should dismount and push the bike until you crossed the branches noting the end of the funeral. As we rode our bikes (oblivious to such a cultural rule) through the funeral, someone stopped us and asked us to dismount and push our bikes. We were mortified and apologized profusely. At this point everyone who was mourning had stopped to watch us. We were already embarrassed and did not want to cause anymore of a scene, so we decided to push our bikes around the backside of the funeral as to draw less attention. We did this and came out on the other side and were a good distance from the funeral, so we decided it was safe to get back on our bikes. As we were climbing back on, another person came to inform us that we had  indeed NOT passed the branches and to please get off our bikes. Oh my goodness! We did it again?! Of course at that moment we look over and see the Sr. Chief and the village headmen attending the funeral and watching us make this huge cultural faux pas. We apologize again whole heartedly and climb back off the bikes and push them further down the road where we finally see the branches signaling the end of the funeral. Rest assure, we did not make that mistake on the way back home.....or ever again. Fortunately, Malawians are so gracious and did not harbor any hard feelings towards us!

Naming Babies {Malawi Mondays}

It has been a long time since I did a "Malawi Monday". My sister has been giving me some good ideas of new topics I haven't put on here before, so I hope to be posting more in the future . If you want to see the Malawi Mondays so far, click here.

Naming babies in Malawi is a little different than how we might name our young ones in America. Traditionally, the first Malawian baby is named by the father or someone the father chooses. The babies born after the first, can be named by the mother. When babies are born at the hospital, which is strongly encouraged (with a fine if you don't) a name must be picked for the baby before the mom is discharged.

Recently, a Malawian dad came to the gate and informed me that he wanted me to name their first baby! I wasn't sure he was serious until the next day, during a glorious Sunday afternoon nap, when I received several frantic texts. "Come on! The family is all waiting for you to come and name the baby." So I jumped up and grabbed my sister and 2 daughters and went to their house. We were warmly greeted by the father, the mother, a sister, and  a neighbor who were seated on the grass mat inside the home. We got to cuddle with the most gorgeous little babe who was a mere 2 days old.

 I originally had picked the name "Noah", but learned there was another boy in the village with that name. When my 8 year old heard the baby's last name was George, she offered up the name "Curious". The family was really contemplating that name and I had to steer them away much to my giggling daughter's dismay. We offered the name "Jude" but with the accent here, it sounded more like "Judy". The family finally agreed on the name "Jonah" after we explained how Jonah was a picture of Jesus' death and resurrection (3 days in the whale).  I was so worried that the mom might not like the name I had chosen. I wanted to make sure she actually wanted to call her kid by that name for the rest of his life. Names are a big deal! Can you imagine letting a foreign woman whom you never met to come name your baby? Fortunately, after offering several names, she seemed happy with the name "Jonah".

Sometimes babies here are named Lonely or Trouble depending on what circumstances the mother was going through when she became pregnant. I have been trying to pick a good strong Biblical name to really speak to the baby's future and how God views the child as a blessing!

We have also had the delight of naming the foster baby that we cared for last year. We were surprised to learn that the family respected the name and kept it even after he was moved out of our home. I have also had the great honor of having one of our staff' member naming his last born after me. I cried when he came to tell me his daughter's name. That was the first time anyone had named their child after me! It was really special and encouraging to me!

{a sweet baby from the village}

 

Any topics you are curious about that you'd like to see on a Malawi Monday?

 

A Day in the Life {2.11.16}

For Christmas this year, my sweet mama gifted me a kindle! I am loving having a library at my fingertips! I stumbled upon an author named Kim Abernethy who wrote 2 memoirs (In this Place & In Every Place). In her books, she chronicles her life serving in West Africa with her husband and 3 daughters. I loved her candidness and transparency as she shares the good moments, hard moments, and even scary times in her journey. Her books were so fun, encouraging and faith building. I wish I had kept a journal of our time here in Malawi starting at the beginning.  It made me  want to make sure I am recording the mundane, every day things so that I can look on them with fond memories one day. So, I thought it would be fun to start today!

2.11.16

Since we have lived in Malawi, my kids have had quite the collection of unique animals. Once the locals find out that you're on a hunt for a pet, the knocks on the gate will begin. I guess it's a good opportunity to make a little cash on critters that are found wandering around the village. So far, the kids have been the proud owners of 3 hedgehogs, 4 chameleons, 1 dog, 3 laying hens, 4 turtles, 2 inherited turkeys, several crabs, and a plethora of random grasshoppers, butterflies and water bugs. The animals have taught the kids responsibility and what happens when you neglect your animal. It's also taught them that some things just belong free and were not made for captivity. Through all the lessons, the "pets" have provided lots of entertainment.

Our old kitchen table (before we bought one from our missionary friends that transitioned back to the States) was unfinished wood. So, I would cover it with a piece of cloth and then overlay that with a piece of clear plastic so that we could wipe off the table. One day, I noticed Asher (then age 4-5) talking to the plastic as she was shoving her hand between the cloth and the clear plastic. I asked her what she was doing and she informed me that she was talking to her pets. In exploring  little more, I realized that Asher's "pets" were tiny little bugs that she was finding outside. She was storing them on our kitchen table between the cloth and plastic. That day we had a good conversation on what counted as "pets" and what did not. We also talked about what kinds of things only have homes outside.

Along with some interesting and harmless pets, we have also been offered some strange and unusual pets. One day a boy came to the gate asking for Grainger (he is the animal lover). He brought in a cup with some "animals" inside, when he turned the cup over, 3 large scorpions came out and scooted all along our porch with their pinchers clapping. I did put  my foot down on that purchase (thankfully none of my 4 were to interested in having scorpions for pets). The boys left with his scorpions and was disappointed he was not able to make a sale that day.

New {2016}

I am really not much of a  New Year's Resolution kinda gal. 

Living here in Malawi, Christmas and New Year's slip by kinda quiet like and if it wasn't for social media, then I wouldn't even realize  that Jan.1 marks the date you're supposed to have your list of "top 10" things you want to change about yourself.

But God had a different plan for me this year and many things that He is wanting to change in my life. The other night as I lay awake in bed tossing and turning, the whole house asleep and quiet, God spoke a word over me and it was the word....NEW. A really simple, 3 lettered word, but it had a powerful meaning for me. Starting that night, God wanted to make me new. 

He whispered a word of freedom over my life and I instantly felt like a different person.

"Do not conformed to the pattern of this world but be transformed by the reNEWing of your mind' 

Romans 12:2 NLT {emphasis mine}

In 2013, I was a stay-at-home mom with 2 children and had a perfect little university model school  that my boys attended. The school allowed me to have 2 days all alone doing whatever my little heart desired. Almost in an instant, I became a mother of 4 (lovely but LOUD children), living in another country, having 0 days or even minutes of alone time, and became a working mom. All.at.once. It was a harder adjustment than I realized at the time, and looking back, it kicked my tail. It still kicks my tail.

Ever since I can remember, I have wanted a whole gaggle of kids. Big, loud families always looked like so much fun to me! When my own reality wasn't quite measuring up, I felt guilty that my blessings from the Lord were not filling me with joy. Things that I had prayed for, for years for were being answered. Instead of being thankful and content, I felt overwhelmed which opened the door to Satan totally kicking me in the face with feelings of unworthiness, guilt and shame. 

When parenting was super, super hard (transitions, bonding, trauma, homesickness for all 4 kiddos) it became easier to love on other kids than my own. 

A few months ago, around the 2 year mark of living and adjusting to life here, it felt like we were finally coming up for some air. I also realized that we had listed "please pray for balance in ministry and family" as a prayer request for the past 24 months straight on our newsletters. I began to really have conversations with God about if this balance was ever going to happen or if it was even possible. Then, God gave me this word, "new". I felt like He was telling me, "you don't have to keep living this way, Look! I am making you new. I am going to give you a new way to think, a new way to talk, a new way to feel, a new way to love your family, a new way to operate your days." 

I don't have to keep living in the old. I know this sounds simple or maybe even weird, but when you are struggling through your days, it is easier to just keep doing the same, old same old. Immediately God gave me some really simple and easy ideas of things I can change now. Really specific things that are bringing change and joy to my day to day living now. He is "restoring the years the locust have eaten" 

Joel 2:25.

He is giving me joy in my parenting like I used to have. He is showing me how I can create balance and really savor the season of life that He has me in now. He is also showing me that no matter where I live, or what my current ministry is, my kids and family will always be my first ministry. 

That releases a lot of guilt from this people pleaser that I am. 

I am so thankful that at salvation Christ made me a new creation. I am thankful that He promises to continue to re-new me again and again. That in Christ we just keep getting re-newed each day. We don't have to live in the same patterns, as surely as the sun rises each day, his mercies are new.

Are you a New Year's Resolution kinda gal? 

Has God given you a word for 2016?

I'd love to hear it!

Interview With an Esther's House Intern

We love having interns at Esther's House. They become a part of our family and it's hard to let them go! Brittany did a 3 month internship at Esther's House and graciously agreed to share her honest perspective about what life was like living in rural Malawi.........


>> Why did you decide to intern with Esther’s house?

I was able to join an amazing team last year (2013) for 2 weeks and it just was not enough. I told the kids that I would be back. They just kind of smiled and said, “ No, everyone says that... but they don’t come back.” So basically I just had to prove them wrong. KIDDING.

I loved every moment of that short trip. I guess looking back on it now, I thought the relationships that I made were incredible. I couldn’t say 1/2 of their names, but me saying them wrong and them laughing at my attempts was so worth it. Our team did some evangelism in a village that hadn’t been reached by any other team before, and it was so amazing. The willingness these people have to talk about their faith, lack of faith, hurts, trials, blessings, hardships, and just all the in’s and out’s of life... you guys it is crazy. Americans are just do different, but we will get to that later. Malawi is a breathtakingly beautiful country, and the people man. THEY ARE SO 
BEAUTIFUL TOO.

{These are some of the sweet not so little ones that were in my tutoring class}

>> What were your jobs while working at Esther's House?

I was able to teach a girls Bible study for a few weeks to some of the older girls as well as tutor a Standard 4-6 math tutoring class 3 days a week. There were 2 teams that came to Esther’s House during my stay, and I loved having them there so much! With that said, teams are a lot of work to prepare for. Who knew? I was able to help the on-site missionary families with all the duties that go into preparing for the team, and we sure had a lot of fun! I’m not sure if this was a real title or not, but maybe "relationship builder". I loved just getting to hang with the kids. Pulling my hair out while giving me a new hair style, teaching me Chichewa, watching Pollyanna on my iPad, finding songs on their radio for us to dance to, and cooking with me in the kitchen were some of our favorite things.

I almost forgot my favorite job... campus “nurse”. If any of you know we well, you already know how I am with injuries, blood, talk of your injury or blood, and anything to do with infection. Jesus is always around to be the one to pull us out of our comfort zone, right? It all started with the typical needs of ibuprofen, band aids, and cough drops.   At least He started me off easy. Things then upgraded to learning how to test and treat Malaria. One drop of blood on a test. Whew, made it. THEN. Ya’ll, seriously. The sweetest widow fell into her hot coals after cooking her dinner, and because of her age could not get up very fast. He knee was badly burned. Thankfully after she walked to Esther’s House for a medical clinic day we were able to treat her. Visiting her daily and changing that gauze is something I could never forget. She was so tough though, all Malawian women are. It is crazy.  Word spread around pretty fast and almost daily was I treating a wound of a widow, community kid, or residential kid. I’d like to think I’m pretty tough now, maybe I should check into nursing school. JOKES.

{Giving a malaria test}

{This is Faith. She lost her hands many years ago in a fire. She had such a sweet spirit despite all that she's been through. She would always run out to the road to greet me.}

>> What is a major lesson God taught you while serving in Malawi?

Coming into my internship I wasn’t really sure what to expect, and I am grateful for that. Yes, I had been just 10 months prior, but staying 3 months and not having my trusty sidekick Olivia with me... that’s a different ballgame. It’s a little funny that I love to plan everything, and I live by my “to-do” lists and my planner. The Lord just has a funny way about changing you into what He wants you to be. Life at Esther’s House is quite different from my life as an “American”. Shocker, right? In many ways it is very slow. No one is in a hurry, which can be a good and bad thing (just ask the Wilson’s how long it took to get electricity over here... ;). I guess my major lesson, and it really is hard because I did learn so much, was just to stop planning my path and allow Him to do it. Stop living by my head knowledge or by what seems the most financially responsible and just follow Him. Coming to Malawi this time meant I had to leave many things behind, including my house and I had to leave my job. I loved my little house, and let me tell you I LOVED my job working with students so much. It was hard. Those three little words don’t even make it look like much, but just know I really struggled. Thankfully before I even left a sweet family from my church opened up their home to me. That took so much off of me to know at least I will have a temporary “home”.

There were many nights (pretty much every other night) sitting with Catherine and I was just saying , “What am I going to do , I’m applying for jobs consistently and nothing is happening. I’m getting discouraged because I just thought when I followed His plan, that He would just magically show His plan out before me... and HE ISN’T.” She was such an encouragement to me without even knowing it. I kinda always felt silly talking to this lady about my little problems, when HELLO... she has just given everything to Him and has been serving for the last 2 years with her family. She is just so wise, understanding, and loving. (Catherine don’t delete this because I know you are going to want to. :) I also met a previous intern while I was there named Seth. He reminded me of this truth many times. God can do anything He wants with you right now. "Brittany this is an awesome thing! Jesus could call you to go or to do anything! Isn’t that so exciting?!” At first I just looked at him like he was crazy, but you know, he was totally on to something. Although I was nervous, scared, and worried about my bills that were due soon, and what my life plan was. Jesus knew. Jesus had me. If you would have asked me before this journey if Jesus knew my plan, I would have said of course He does. I guess He just had to really show me how much He cares, and I’m so glad He did.

{These two beauties came to the medical tent and we couldn't stop smiling at each other. Their happiness is so contagious.}

>> How has the journey at Esther’s House changed your worldview?

Literally laughed when I read this. America sucks. Can I say that?
Obviously I knew going over things would be different, but really it wasn’t until I came back that it really hit me. We are so unnecessarily busy. For what? Half of the things that we think we are so busy with are just pointless things. I saw women walk for miles to come to church, and to come to Esther’s house. I saw how hard they work for just a day of food. I saw how long they would stand bent over the river washing clothes. It’s just amazing all that we still complain about. LIFE IS SO EASY here. Well, let me say this. As an American life was so easy there. I think there were 2 times I called one of my closest friends here in Arkansas and questioned my length of stay. A few tears were shed and I would just tell her I missed foods, I missed people, I missed church, I missed driving, I missed my everyday life. You know whats funny though is I worked around the food thing. I met some of the best people I could ever meet in this life. Watching them being able to truly worship all day in church, when we are mad if we don’t get out right at 12. Don’t worry, Suzgo (best driver in the world) taught me to drive. Life is really what you make it. After the first month or so, I was settled. I really didn’t like leaving, and honestly it’s been really hard being home. Things are different. I’m different.

{Reading a book during the Summer Reading Program.}

>> What is something you learned from a Malawian/orphan/widow?

This one makes me instantly teary. I really fell in love with the widows. These women are fighters. They are tough. They are determined. They love on the orphans at Esther’s House, and they loved on me. As I visited many of their homes to check on the children in their care or to check up on their wounds, they were always so nice and welcoming.
Even through a huge language barrier we were able to laugh. I figured out that “hug” is the same word in Chichewa so that worked out nice. We would dance around on Saturday’s when they were all gathering waiting for lunch. Man. I love those ladies.

{Chicken and Dumplings at Suzgo's house}

>>What is your favorite memory of Esther’s House?

This one is impossible for me, here's but something that’s cool. I remember pretty much everything. I journaled almost daily, and I think that helped. I could talk for hours about all that this place means to me and all of the funny moments. Like Miles (the night guard) getting a rat out of the Wilson’s house. Ashley and I stuck in the city looking for a guy we didn’t know... long story. Me showing up on Bonnie’s doorstep one day after riding a bus for 2 hours to get there;) it was all amazing. I was able to buy a kitten from the market and make her a pet so much so that now she won’t eat rats. I made dinner in a Malawian kitchen with the help of Suzgo’s wife Janepher. I was able to see the hospital where Esimy’s baby was born and hang out with babies for a few hours. There were high points and higher points. I will forever love these little and not so little faces.

{I love this picture for many reasons. Mostly because it represents everyone. These families all give so much and I'm thankful for the chance to get to really know their hearts. Left is the Wilson crew, Seth, the Fern family, and the Martins clan.}

If anyone reading this is thinking about going to Malawi. I just want to tell you to do it. Get more information. Know your calling and go there and do it. 

Brittany Whatley better known as Blittany.