Monday, February 13, 2017

Malawi Mondays {Rainy Season}

It's been awhile since I have written a Malawi Monday! When we were stateside for our 6 week furlough over Christmas, one of my friends mentioned that she and her kids enjoyed learning about Malawi through these posts. So,  I thought I would add some more about what life is like here in Malawi, through expat eyes. 

It's February, so I thought I would write about what happens here in February....rain, lots and lots of rain. For example, yesterday it rained and within an hour, filled up my 60 liter trash barrel.



In America, we call our rainy season "Spring". Trees and flowers begin to blossom, we start shedding our winter wears, and in the evenings, lawn mower engines are humming in every suburban neighborhood. But, in the US (or at least in the South) we typically receive rain all throughout the year.

In Malawi, rainy season is pretty much the only time of year that we receive any type of precipitation (at least in our area). The rains start in November/December and usually finish up around March/April.

A good rainy season is imperative for most Malawians. Malawi is primarily  an agriculture community. When the rains are "officially here" you will find the majority of Malawians out in their gardens planting seed. You may see some people plant ground nuts (peanuts), green beans, tomatoes, potatoes, etc. But everyone is planting maize (corn). Maize is the primary ingredient to make Nsima. Nsima is the staple food of Malawi. It is typically eaten with every meal. You can read more about Nsima  here. Too much rain or too little rain has life impacting consequences on the people here.

This is our fourth season to be living in Malawi during the rainy season. The first rainy season we were here, it rained off and on. Nothing to extreme from what we were used to living in Arkansas.

The second year, we saw MAJOR rains. As in, rained so hard that the rushing waters took down our 10 foot tall brick wall that had just been constructed in the back of our campus. It rained so hard that many houses and gardens were washed away. A man from a village a mile from our home drowned trying to walk home. The flooding lasted for two weeks and then the rains went away. People tried to replant their gardens, but the rains never returned. The harvests in our area were very small and people went hungry that year. You can read more about how people were effected here.

The third season we were in Malawi, we had a mild rainy season. It would rain for a day and then not rain for two weeks. About the time everyone was chewing their nails that their gardens were going to dry up, another rain would come. Our area had a decent crop, although many parts of Malawi experienced major flooding and then droughts. You can read more here.

This year, we are experiencing rain every day. This has been the pattern since November. The gardens are looking good. The water does not seem to have caused too much damage in our area, although we have heard of flooding in other parts of Malawi.

I had never lived in a country before where the amount of rain received has such life impacting consequences.  Too much rains equals the loss of home and garden. Too little rain also means the loss of garden, which is the primary way that people feed themselves for the year. Most Malawians do not have the money to go buy maize if their garden fails. When droughts and flooding happens, the price of maize sky rockets because it becomes a hot commodity.

The first year that we moved here, I was telling one of our staff members about how much I loved rainy season. I loved the sound of rain on the tin roof of our house. I loved the cool down of weather and I especially was in awe over the beautiful sunsets. I loved how everything turns green, the dust disappears and the country is lush and beautiful.

She explained that my experience was somewhat different than our neighbors living around us in the village. Rain doesn't sound pretty on the rooftop when it is leaking through your thatch roof at night when you are sleeping. Rain doesn't seem peaceful when it is rushing through the floor of your hut. A typical Malawian home is made of mud bricks and uses mud instead of concrete to lay the walls. Lots of water = the potential for your house to fall apart each rainy season. I enjoyed rainy season because the amount of rain doesn't effect how much or little I will eat this year.




My perspective was totally different than my neighbors. Which I guess is how this whole ex-pat thing works? We come from different cultures, backgrounds, experiences. We view things through different lenses. Part of the hard and the beauty of living in another country is learning to see the perspective of  those you have come to live life with.

Saturday, February 11, 2017

Arkansas to Africa {Part 11 Delays}

Welp, I did not mean to neglect my little blog, but somehow many months have passed by and here she lays, all dusty. I am excited to get back into updating this little space more often and to finally sitting down and finishing the AR to AF series. I am finding that my memory is getting fuzzy on the details and I want to wrap this up before I completely forget it!

I have had several people ask me, "how in the world did y'all wind up in Africa"?

Most of the time that ends with me stuttering around and giving some kind of a lame answer.

Not because there isn't a really good (non-lame) answer,
but because it is hard to know where to get started.

Sooo, I thought I would begin to share the story that God wrote for us.
It is a looonng story that spans many years.
But don't worry, no chapter book today!
 I will give it to you a bit at a time!


If you want to catch up to speed, you can find:

Part 1 {here}
Part 2 {here}
Part 3 {here}
Part 4 {here}
Part 5 {here}
Part 6 {here}
Part 7 {here}
Part 8 {here}

Part 9 {here}
Part 10 {here}

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After leaving off 18 months ago {i will complete this, i will complete this}, we thought we would get approval to travel to bring our daughters home in February 2013 and move to Malawi in May 2013. We received news that changed our timeline and left us unsure of how it all was going to go down.

The United States Embassy in our girl's birth country issued a change in policy. Instead of a two week investigation before approval of visas, they were going to begin a mandatory 6 month investigation. On one hand, we were all for more checks and balances to make sure our adoption was ethical, but on the other hand, the delay felt like a punch in the gut as our girls were waiting in a transition house for us. The extra six month wait felt like an eternity. We also weren't sure that six months wouldn't actually turn into a year or more. Our girls were from a village that was a six hour flight from where the US Embassy was located. The USE had no idea of when they would actually make it to their area to perform their investigation. 

While we waited, we started our fundraising to move to Malawi. We took advantage of our girls not being home and spent four months meeting (once, twice, sometimes three meeting a day) with friends, family, and churches to find ministry partners. God performed miracles and led people to come on board with us and completely fund all of our needs. It was really a big faith building and humbling time.

Meanwhile, it looked like our girls' investigation was not going to happen anytime soon. We decided to go ahead and move to Malawi and live there until we gained permission to come and get our daughters. We sold our house and the majority of our belongings. What we didn't sell, we loaded onto a 12' x 12' space and shipped our things to Malawi. We bought tickets to move in July 2013. 

A few weeks before we moved, we received a special surprise that caused us to cancel our flights to Malawi.......




Stay tuned! I promise I will update before 18 months passes by again. 




Thursday, July 7, 2016

Kenya/Tanzania

In May, I had an awesome opportunity to travel with one of our board members to check out a couple of organizations in Kenya. 

We were able to visit Mercy House and Raffiki Foundation.
Both are amazing organizations that we were able to learn from and be encouraged by.
I am so thankful for the opportunity to check out other work going on in Africa. It was a terrific experience and a great gauge to measure Esther's House by! 

A few days before the trip, my friend and board member, told me that we were going to be able to go on a safari. So, I threw a pair of pants and a jacket into my suitcase and mentally checked off "day safari" in my head.  I had no idea what I was in for on this safari trip, because lo and behold....we went to The Serengeti! It was perhaps the coolest thing that I have ever experienced; truly a once in a lifetime kinda thing.  I still can't wrap my mind around the things that I was able to see and experience. 

I took a bazillion pictures and am posting some of my favorites.....


















The wildebeest has never been an animal that I have been terribly interested in, but found such a deep admiration for them. We were able to see a huge wildebeest migration where the animals were just sprinting for hours in a long line....2.5 million wildebeest migrating to find water. It was incredible!





Hello, hippos! So cool to find 200 or so hippos just chilling' in a pond.





The amazing ladies I got to experience this trip with.


Ngorongoro crater again on our way back to civilization.

What an incredible opportunity! 
The animals in their natural habitats, the sunsets; what a worshipful experience seeing God's creation!
No matter where I travel or what I get to see, my favorite place in the world is at home with my family. 
Trips away are always good to remind me of that!



Thursday, June 16, 2016

TWELVE

Last week our oldest turned 12. 

It is our last year before we have to start throwing "teen" in on his birthdays. 

I am sure if I go back and read all of his birthday posts, I will see that every year I have a bit of a hard time with my first- born continuing to grow older!
It's such bitter sweet feelings all rolled up together.
I love seeing glimpses of the man he is becoming but also clearly see how fast this whole mom-gig is going by. 

And this mom-gig is my favorite thing.

Past Birthdays:


Things I want to remember about Z at 12....
Z is our one quiet child. 
He is greatly outnumbered by all the "louds" in our house.


We are learning his love language is quality time.
He loved that on his birthday, he got to pick all 3 meals and have his whole family sit together and eat and watch him open a gift. 


He and his dad got to get away for the weekend on his birthday and spent the night in a hotel.
You could just tell his quality time cup was filled when he got home. 


He continues his love for reading and most of the time if he goes missing, you can find him in the house with a book.



He is still our day dreamer and I love the ideas he comes up with!
He is learning to play the guitar and likes to practice and watch videos.


He is growing into his role of being the big brother to 3.
He loves to play with his siblings on the trampoline or bring them into his game he invented. 
He is also totally fine being by himself. 






Favorites at 12:

Favorite Color: black and neon green
Favorite movie: Battle of 5 Armies
Favorite Food: fried chicken
Favorite drink: Sprite
Favorite thing to play: sword fighting
Favorite Friend: Corbin
Favorite thing to do with mom: watch movies
Favorite thing to do with dad: Legos, drawing, and sports stuff
Favorite thing about living in Africa: it's really pretty
Favorite Bible Story: Joshua
Favorite subject in school: History
What you want to be when you grow up: a blacksmith for making weapons for movies

Monday, May 30, 2016

E turns NINE {Birthday}


G (10) and E's (9) birthdays just fall 3 days apart so there are lots of birthday celebrations going on in that second week of April.

On Esther's Birthday, we happened to be at the lake with a team.
The kids had a great time getting to do Vacation Bible School on the beach and swim!
The last night before the team left, the staff at the hotel brought out Esther a beautiful, huge birthday cake covered in bright pink flower petals and sang to her.
It made her year! It was so precious seeing how surprised she was to see everyone celebrating her.

This year, after taking into account the HUGE growth that E has had since she has been with us, the advice from a Dr. and a dentist, we decided that Esther would turn 9 on her birthday instead of 8. 
So we celebrated turning 8 & 9 and got a new pretty bike!


Here are her past birthday pics......



She likes playing jump rope, jumping on the trampoline, and riding her bike.


One of her most admirable qualities is that she can laugh at herself.


She has done so well this year in second grade and works hard to do her best.
She has gained a lot of ground in reading.


She is quick to forgive and is a kind friend.
She is a thoughtful and loyal companion.
We sure do love her and are thankful we get to celebrate her birthdays!


9 year old interview:

Favorite Color: pink and purple
Favorite movie: Hotel Transylvania 2
Favorite Food: grilled cheese
Favorite drink: Coca Cola
Favorite Friend: all the EH girls
Favorite thing to do with mom: spend time with her
Favorite thing to do with dad: spend time with him as well
Favorite thing about living in Africa: that I have a lot of friends
Favorite Bible Story: David and Goliath
Favorite subject in school: handwriting (cursive)
What you want to be when you grow up: a gymnast

Thursday, May 26, 2016

G is TEN

My baby boy turned 10 in April. Double digits....how in the world?!


My friend Kristin was in town again this year and snapped pics of my kids, which is why this birthday post is actually happening! 




Grainger is funny, silly, and loves making friends.


His current favorite pastime is playing football with his friends. 
He is on the Jr. football team here at Esther's House and loves it!


I have to drag him in every night at dark from playing with his friends.


Of all of our kids, he has picked up speaking Chichewa the most. 
I am always surprised to hear him saying something to someone and thinking, 
"hey, I didn't know you knew that."




G has BIG feelings and we are working on how to share those BIG feelings in a positive way :)




He loves his siblings (somedays you may not be able to tell ;)  and I think we have been in a brother wrestling phase for every.single.day of the last 10 years. 
I have no hope that he will outgrow it. 


10 year old interview:

Favorite Color: red
Favorite movie: Harry Potter 4
Favorite Food: cake
Favorite drink: Coca Cola
Favorite Friend: Isaac, Precious, Nedson, and Zander
Favorite thing to do with mom: cook
Favorite thing to do with dad: just sitting down together and playing a game
Favorite thing about living in Africa: that I have 80 kids to play with
Favorite Bible Story: when Elijah outruns Ahab's chariot
Favorite subject in school: Reading
What you want to be when you grown up: a chef


Wednesday, May 25, 2016

A Day in the Life of My MK {missionary kid}

One of my favorite things about having a blog is having a record of what life looks like in different seasons of our lives. I have an old blog that I started when this, almost 12 year old, was just 4 years old. The days were long and I thought I would always remember what life was like back then. But, when I read old posts, I have no recollection of those days....just a few short years ago (#mombrain). So, I just love having records of life. The normal, ordinary days. I know I will cherish looking back on this season with my oldest. And, I am going to pretend like I am not always mentally calculating how he only has 6 short years left in our house {insert ugly cry}

A couple weeks ago, I kept my phone with me all day and snapped pics of what a typical Thursday looks like for my oldest missionary kid. It's fun to follow overseas families from all over the world and get a peek into their lives. Our days are pretty slow and simple, but we love it just the same.

On this particular morning, I woke up to find Z in the kitchen. He has become quite the cook, making biscuits and chocolate gravy for breakfast. 


After breakfast, he has morning chores and then is off to do Math with his tutor. I seriously wished I had outsourced Math a loooooong time ago. It has always been a subject we have butted heads in (let's be real, 7th grade Math is about as high as I can remember). A veteran missionary, mama friend suggested I find someone to help me with just this one subject. I don't know why I never thought of it before! In Malawi, we have many certified teachers looking for work as they wait years for the government to place them. So, it was win-win situation. I am so thankful for Mr. Andrew!


After 1-1.5 hours of Math, Z comes back to the house and we finish up the rest of his subjects. 
We usually finish up school around 1 o'clock.


Next up is lunch and play time. 


Some kindle reading and games while sister plays beauty shop.


In the afternoons, all 4 of my kids get to participate in skills classes. I am SO thankful for this time. I love for my kids to get to participate in an activity with other kids and a teacher. Those important life lessons of, "if you sign up for this, you have to see it through to the end".
Z is in my computer skills class this term with his friend and fellow MK "C'. 


After skills class, we play outside, eat dinner, shower, do chores, maybe watch a movie, and go to bed.

That's a typical day. 
I used to worry about the things my kids were missing out on...school, sports, extracurriculars, etc.
Now, I am just really thankful for this season. The family time, the routines, the no-stress. 
I think it's a pretty good childhood!

 
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